Now to why I’m writing: I have been dating my good friend for six months now, things with him are going really well.Not only do we have many similar interests but we are also similar in personalities and wave length.That He’ll Think I’m High Maintenance “When first dating a new guy I always worry that he’ll think I'm high maintenance so I’ll say "yes! I once walked over three miles in 4-inch heels because I was afraid that the guy would think I was too prissy if I turned down his suggestion to go for a stroll after drinks.” — Beth, RI 3.That He’ll Have a Bad Time With Me “It makes me squirm when I'm seeing a guy that can't seem to let go of his phone. That He’ll Think It’s Weird I Don’t Drink “Going for drinks is one of the most common first dates. I’m fine hanging out at a bar and getting a soda or a water, but I’m always nervous how my date will react when I tell him that I won’t be getting in on the happy hour special, too.” — Sophia, NH 5.Everyone feels insecure about one thing or another when kindling a new romance—even the most beautiful and seemingly confident women. That He’ll Think I Look Different in Person “When I first meet a guy that I’ve connected with through a dating app I’m always nervous that he’ll think I’m less attractive in person than I am in my photos.
So for literally half of our relationship, we have been apart.
It has made finding actual love and good relationships much more difficult.
I don’t fit in with the dynastic wealth crowd, and I know there are tons of great women who grew up with money and are not in any way impressed by mine, but I just don’t fit in with that group of people.
I have yet to meet a woman who has no insecurities. This is certainly easier said then done; the voice of doubt is usually persistent. When we depend on the constant reassurances of our significant other, he can begin to feel inadequate, like he is failing us, and sometimes he can even be made to feel like the enemy.
Women who deal with insecurity in a healthy way focus on their internal dialog, and they convince themselves to put insecurity aside for their own mental health and the health of their romantic relationship.